Say No to Should-be-Life

We All Are Ordinary Guys

We all are ordinary guys.
Is that the reason for us
To find so easily amazing features in others.
And still an extraordinary man is only the ordinary guy
Who can express the everyday life in a special way.
If we trusted a bit more ourselves,
respected more life without the embellishing
these so called extraordinary characters
could be more common like
and wouldn’t collapsed
on the road
too soon.
©Yelling Rosa


When I read bloggers’ introductions here on WordPress, I found often the sentence: I am just an ordinary guy (read: woman or man) who… It told me that we are not automatically interested in being something special, even though we are often advised to make something remarkable out of our lives. Unfortunately there are always some people who accept the challenge and try to become famous. The unhappiest of all are those knights who do this out of their humanity. They want to bring happiness around them. Perhaps they have adopted this role early in their childhood and can’t ever be among the audience. No matter how much they are worshipped in the end of the day they are just human beings who need love and who are best comforted when they can be their own little selves.

We could be their shoulder but we are so much confused with this Should-Be-Life that we don’t see the point. The enormous information torrent is coming to our lives from every hole and gap. That chaos is built up from the millions and millions of advices which tell us how we should act in order to be happy, decent, loved, good and so … We, who are the gregarious animals, believe in these advices because they seem to come from the reliable sources, and because the information are well-addressed just for you and me. This circle reinforces the situation where the leaders (the information makers) are keeping us on a lead. This is not only inhuman but very dangerous as the lemmings follow their leaders even in the ravine.

Those in charge are not evil persons. They believe that they are doing the right thing but the only right thing is to be an ordinary guy who realizes his/hers pros and cons. After that it is not a complicated thing to understand that the fellowmen are also ordinary guys who need same things as I do. This reality gives us those super powers we now see only in others. The weakness makes us strong, and most of all reasonable.

If we really think the famous celebrates we realize that we respect them when they are skilled but love them when they are human beings. Unfortunately their human like nature comes to our knowledge too late from their point of view. When they are left this planet we are able to read their weaknesses (drugs, alcohol) and we realize that they must have been lonely with all the expectations we have dumped onto their shoulders. It is not easy to say that I am only a common guy when you are idolized by millions. Perhaps these extraordinary human beings think that it would be arrogant because the fans have given them all they got.

In the eighties I wrote an aphorism:

The Question

The question
is not about coming
not about going
it is about
©Yelling Rosa

So that let’s be small and let others be even smaller when they need that and support them during the bad times as well when the good days are in their lives.


About Yelling Rosa

I desing home pages. In my spare time I read, write, play the guitar and hike. I have published three verse books in Finnish and recorded my songs. You can listen to them on YouTube. I have translated some of my poems on Yelling Rosa's Weblog. I also like to watch movies. Olen kiinnostunut lukemisesta, kirjoittamisesta, kitaransoitosta ja luonnossa vaeltamisesta. Olen julkaissut kolme runokirjaa ja laulujani on äänitteillä. Voit lukea runojani Yelling Rosan kotisivuilta ja kuunnella laulujani YouTubessa. Olen elokuvafriikki.
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34 Responses to Say No to Should-be-Life

  1. sherazade says:

    Ordinary guy. We all are og here in this space: it s just a way to say thar we don’t want appear different. Just someone with few ideas to share.
    Different for you and some one else really clever.
    Exist! Is a great word.
    have a very nice we my friend.

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  2. You have made some really good points here! I appreciate the statement about celebrities being liked for their humanity. I used to work with celebrities and you are right. That’s what appealed to me about the relationship I had with them!

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  3. Tania Tome M de Castro says:

    I liked what you put in your text!
    I personally never considered myself nor declared myself “ordinary woman.” Always put me as special.
    The biggest problem I see in the “existence” (about existing) is perhaps loneliness.


    • Yelling Rosa says:

      Thank you for your comment. My article doesn’t mean that we don’t have unique personalities. We are alike when it comes to our hearts. We need to be loved because what we are. It gives us strenght to love others in the same way. When we neglect this the loneliness begins. Take care 🙂

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  4. Ginene Nagel says:

    Your post reminds me that everyone deserves the same respect, rich or poor, young or old, famous or infamous. No one is ordinary. Each of us is a one-of-a-kind. Thank you for a lovely read.

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  5. susanissima says:

    Thanks for stopping by my blog, YR, and in being here at yours I’m pleasantly surprised by you thoughtfulness and delightful voice in English. All the best!


  6. joseyphina says:

    Interesting read. And thanks for passing by my blog. Appreciate it. Hope you do so often. 🙂


  7. Mike says:

    Pointed poetry, prose and and aphorism. Uniqueness with humility respects self and respects others. Much food for thought YR, thank you.


  8. People that are just ordinary parents that have love and care for their children are the most extraordinary and admirable people of all.

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  9. Cynthia says:

    I think every person is extraordinary and has something uniquely theirs to bring to the table. It’s a sad thing when people hide their light or shine a false light or saddest of all, are completely unaware that they have anything to offer.


  10. Now I wonder how my About page “looks” like…Oh, well.


  11. A lovely poem, Yelling Rosa. I particularly like the line ‘respected more life without the embellishing.’ Such a simple idea, yet so difficult to do.


  12. davidkitz says:

    Fame certainly has its down side. Even the extraordinary have ordinary weaknesses.


  13. Carmen says:

    Even the most powerful king has had a time to cry on his servant´s shoulder (I heard this sentence and it made me feel so human, after all we all are ordinary guys with special gifts= Thanks for yours


  14. Dalo 2013 says:

    “It is about existing” that is the perfect piece of logic that sometimes is missed in life. We all contain something special, and that is being there for others. Cheers!


  15. I would go so far as to say it is not so much about existing as it is about living. =)


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